Breaking All Kinds of Silly Traditions.

There are some things I just don’t understand. Most of these can be characterized as traditions. Traditions can be a source of joy (think Christmas or birthday celebrations), but they can also be as negative and hard to kick as bad habits (which we have covered before, no need to rinse and repeat).

Image: PencilHere are some of my pet peeves:

For the life of me, I will never understand why, after a certain age, dinner parties or social events end up in segregation of men and women. Shouldn’t your spouse’s friends be your friends, too? Genders naturally gravitate toward one another, but it’s hard to build a long-lasting relationships if going on dates is exclusively going out alone. Group dates, people, group dates.

Or how about people who feel out of shape but simply don’t define themselves as a person who exercises? Take one look inside a gym, and you’ll see a collection of true fitness embodied. Some guys will be ripped, and some girls will be lean, but most people will definitely be in shape. If those who are out of shape want to be in shape, why not follow the pack of the fitness hounds into their environment — the gym? They must be doing something right in there.

Let’s go further and look at business. So what if your company has always done something a certain way? Is there a rulebook that says that you can’t attempt to change that tradition if your results will be better? I’m pretty most bosses will appreciate the results once you get them. Think outside the box. Think efficiency over comfort.

My point is this: just because you do it now (and probably have been doing it for years) doesn’t mean you should be doing it, doesn’t mean you can continue doing it, doesn’t mean it’s the best way of doing it.

Take a look at yourself, and strive to promote betterness in yourself and in others. Break tradition and strive for betterness. I only see the opportunity to gain here. (Soon, I’ll have a book on this topic to share with you all.)

Maybe you wouldn’t have heeded my call before, because that’s just not the what you do, but do yourself the favor of breaking that tradition now.

There is something to this betterness thing — take my word for it.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/johannus.vogel Johannus Vogel

    Marcella, really enjoyed reading this post. Silly traditions have always been a fascination of mine.  I think that if we look close enough most traditions are ultimately silly to some degree. Primarily, because they are based on assumptions that we dare not (or  don’t care enough to) question.  The key is to understand that these assumptions are fallible,  to question them and be willing to make revisions. Why do we do what we do? Why do we do it the way we do? Most people are afraid to question their assumptions, because a constantly changing world-view can be unsettling. I, personally, find joy in it and think it can be healthy and even drive innovation. 

    Keep it up!

    • http://www.marcellachamorro.com/ Marcella Chamorro

      I find that often the mindblock stems from decades of being told to “fit in” and “fit the mold”. We end up not even allowing ourselves the creativity and mindspace to question the very traditions that need most change! Frustrating but also so much opportunity. How about companies integrating some Chief Tradition Breakers or something?! The startup community is all about funky titles now, so why not?

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